Beauty in Pain?

I've heard the phrase that there is beauty in pain. You know that old Edna St. Millay poem about having rainbows on your eye lashes from tears type stuff. I think it's crap. The only way beauty comes from pain is if there is victory over that pain and somehow you come out better than what you were before. We all want stability. We want to feel stable, we want to be in stable environments, we want to be treated with stability by stable people. We all want that. No one wants to be in pain. I'm really sick of this cycle that instability and pain has brought me into. My soul wants more for myself, but the instabiliity of my environment won't allow for it.